hi my name is kim and i've abandoned this blog pretty hard, sorry

 

GOOD BYE, EVERYONE

maliathecoywolf:

welp, it’s been an interesting two years, you guys, but i can’t stay

teen wolf fandom been really toxic for me a long time, but more and more i’m noticing the toxicity isn’t just coming from sterek fandom and scott haters, but also from this self-named “good side” of the fandom, and it’s impacting my emotional health to the degree where i can’t justify myself sticking around anymore

so i’m leaving

i’m unfollowing everyone (it’s not you, it’s me), and won’t be interacting with fandom (any fandom tbh, because it’s the same shit everywhere) in any meaningful way, but i’m leaving the blog up, because i might want to post some fic or something occasionally idk

if you want to stay in contact, my askbox will be left open for a while, so we can exchange im details or whatever, otherwise, i hope all you guys will have swell lives

keep on keeping on, bbs <3

GOOD BYE, EVERYONE

welp, it’s been an interesting two years, you guys, but i can’t stay

teen wolf fandom been really toxic for me a long time, but more and more i’m noticing the toxicity isn’t just coming from sterek fandom and scott haters, but also from this self-named “good side” of the fandom, and it’s impacting my emotional health to the degree where i can’t justify myself sticking around anymore

so i’m leaving

i’m unfollowing everyone (it’s not you, it’s me), and won’t be interacting with fandom (any fandom tbh, because it’s the same shit everywhere) in any meaningful way, but i’m leaving the blog up, because i might want to post some fic or something occasionally idk

if you want to stay in contact, my askbox will be left open for a while, so we can exchange im details or whatever, otherwise, i hope all you guys will have swell lives

keep on keeping on, bbs <3

antoinetriplett:

This was just sent to me.

Jesus fuck guys, I don’t know how much clearer I can be.

Ward has done despicable things.

I am not, nor have I ever, nor will I ever condone or excuse those things. In fact, I have not seen a single fucking person condone or excuse or handwave those things. I’m sure some young naive person has done it somewhere, but I haven’t seen it, and I’ve been in the Grant Ward tag for quite a while. So just quit. You’re not dealing with the actual issue.

No one is excusing Ward’s actions. No one.

My stance is, and has fucking always been:

Ward needs treatment. Ward needs his head on straight before any kind of punishment at all will have the desired effect (i.e. to stop the inexcusable behavior). Ward should, after treatment, atone for his crimes.

I literally don’t understand how I can make this clearer.

When I say “I believe in Grant Ward,” I’m saying that I believe in an individual’s capacity to change, for an abuse victim to overcome the cycle of abuse.

You don’t want that?

You want every kid watching this show who has ever been abused to see, for the hundredth time, that there is no escape and they are doomed to live out this cycle until the abuse mentality carries onto their kids and their kids and their kids?

Because when you advocate more abuse to fix Grant Ward, that is what you are advocating. The perpetuation of the cycle.

I don’t want Ward to stay as he is. If Ward stays as he is, I will drop this campaign and go ‘my bad.’ But it is pretty damn confirmed that Ward is not going to stay as he is. That Ward is going to figure out what Garrett did to him and fix things. I want Ward to fix things. I want Ward himself fixed so that every fucking person can see that a bad childhood does not condemn you to a lifetime of bad actions.

I’m glad that in your world, only bad people ever do bad things. I’m glad that it’s so easy for you to call for the death penalty. 

I can’t do that. I want the root of the problem fixed, because otherwise these problems are just going to keep growing. We cannot treat the symptoms and expect the disease to go away. That’s not how things fucking work. If you don’t treat why it’s happening, it’s just going to keep happening.

If you don’t understand that, we are not having the same discussion

and you can kindly fuck off

okay, so an anon pointed me in the direction of this post and i figured i should address it?

so, like, first? where did i “advocate more abuse to fix ward”? please, quote the section where i said that back to me. it’s okay, i can wait. i won’t hold my breath, but i will wait.

did you find it yet? no, i assumed as much, because i literally never said that. the only thing i said was that people needed to stop saying guys like derek hale and brickface are somehow not responsible for their actions because of their abusive pasts.

that’s it. i want people to stop infantalizing victims that become abusers, to stop pretending that they have no agency, that their choices are not choices but exclusively a result of outside influence, that they are not at fault for the pain they inflict.

second, you’re seriously going with the “BUT WHAT ABOUT THE CHILDREN????” stance in this argument?

seriously?

you want to argue that ward isn’t already showing victims that once you’re abused you’re going to perpetuate that abuse?

seriously? the guy joined a nazi organization, killed a bunch of people, and betrayed his country and people who liked, trusted, and cared for him? and more than that, he threatened to rape skye, and he killed the dog? rape and killing animals are like, the two villain tropes used in everything ever to show how despicable a character is.

that’s who you want to be a role model for abuse victims?

you seriously think that what abuse victims need is not more characters like derek morgan, who proves that you can overcome the cycle of abuse without ever having become a monster, but a character like grant ward, murderer and would-be rapist?

yeah, sure. that sounds totally legit. a+++ reasoning, there.

third, like, wow, we really need to talk about your “I’m glad that in your world, only bad people ever do bad things. I’m glad that it’s so easy for you to call for the death penalty.” comment because jfc

yeah, sometimes good people do bad things. it happens.

but ward is a bad person. for reference, see above mentions of nazi organization membership, lots of murder, betrayal, rape threat, and killing the dog. good people don’t do that much bad shit, i’m sorry.

look, if ward ever gets a repemption arc? that’s fine by me. that’s great. i hope he gets help in prison, while serving time for the crimes he’s committed. it’s never too late to realize you’re a monster and start trying to be a better person. the people you’ve hurt might never forgive you, because victims are never obliged to, but that’s no reason not to put in the work.

and as much as you want to paint me as some sort of monster who doesn’t care about abuse survivors, you’re wrong.

i understand the cycle of abuse, i understand it really well. and i think it’s the most important thing in the fucking world that abuse survivors be given all the help and support they need, so that they will heal, and so that the chances they have of breaking the cycle are optimized.

but the cycle is not an excuse. the cycle doesn’t remove one’s agency or one’s capability to make choices.

the cycle is an explanation why victims might go on to victimize others, but it is never, ever an excuse. your choices are always your own, and the responsibility for those choices is always your own.

grant ward made his choices, and those choices made him a bad person. he needs to be held responsible for that.

and, finally, your supposition that “no one” is excusing ward’s actions… well, if you’ve seriously not noticed that that’s exactly what’s going on in the grant ward tag, then idek what to say, because you’re clearly a part of the problem.

ristteeline:

maliathecoywolf:

destroy the notion that abuse is somehow excusable or justifiable if it’s perpetrated by an abuse survivor

destroy the notion that arguably attractive white men who have suffered abuse somehow aren’t making a choice when they abuse others in turn

destroy abuse apologism

destroy the notion that we have to be interested in your “but abuse is a cycle” reasoning. leave that to like, sociologists

no

no

do not fucking put that bullshit on my post

shut up

the cycle of abuse is a real fucking thing and it’s really fucking important to remember

abuse victims are statistically more likely to become abusers than people who haven’t been victimized, because you do what you learn

is that an excuse? no, it isn’t

but to ignore that it’s a factor is wrong

if we fail to acknowledge that abuse breeds abuse, we as a society are letting abuse victims down; we need to spread awareness and work to get abuse victims the help and support they need so that their chances of making unhealthy choices are reduced

i made this post because we need to get rid of this infantalizing bullshit idea that if you’ve been abused, you don’t have any agency, that none of the abuse you inflict on others is your choice or your responsibility

i didn’t make this post so assholes without empathy can feel justified in their choice to ignore the way a wounded mind works or the help it needs

(Source: scottsredhoodie)

quietgames:

all these stunningly gorgeous edits of holland on my dash

but her feminism is whiter than a blizzard in a mayonnaise factory and ciscentric as hell and I am so damn uncomfortable with her

harrysflaccidcock:

Someone at my school made these in response to my principal announcing a dress code that, as usual, only applied to girls, and I’m kind of proud

(Source: harrysflaccidnude)

shrewreadings:

stuckinabucket:

"Oooooookay.  That’s…weird."

"Four, five, six…subtle, guys.  Real subtle."

"Are you shitting me?  Covert ops, my Irish grandmother.  This is why you people lost in ‘Nam."

"Really?  With the budging in behind me, and the whole goon squad?  I am going to kick everybody’s ass on general principle."


“You know, as much shit as you give me about my age, you’d think you’d know that while I was born at night, it was not last night.”

(Source: forassgard)

tinderbox210:

MALIA TATE APPRECIATION WEEK - Day 4: lyrics/poem/quote 

I am not a pretty girlthat is not what I doI ain’t no damsel in distressand I don’t need to be rescuedso put me down punkmaybe you’d prefer a maiden fairisn’t there a kitten stuck up a tree somewhere- Ani DiFranco “Not a pretty girl”

tinderbox210:

MALIA TATE APPRECIATION WEEK - Day 4: lyrics/poem/quote

I am not a pretty girl
that is not what I do
I ain’t no damsel in distress
and I don’t need to be rescued
so put me down punk
maybe you’d prefer a maiden fair
isn’t there a kitten stuck up a tree somewhere
- Ani DiFranco “Not a pretty girl”

sciencesfiction:

This is Ripley, last survivor of the Nostromo, signing off.

Alien (1979; dir. Ridley Scott)

bluandorange:

bluandorange:

okay but can you imagine Bucky fucking something up and Steve’s laughing at him and Bucky glares and goes “Would you stop laughing at my boner and help me do something about it?” 

and somewhere in the background Sam chokes on his food, knocks his knee into the counter and falls over to curl up on the floor and Steve just laughs louder

image

i really want to leave this fandom but i also really want to be here when certain personages over here on the dark side fucks up so bad that all you guys can’t pretend you didn’t notice